Yeah... what she said...
Respect yourself and the world will follow...
Many women ask themselves the same questions, about men. They're
questions that have been asked for generations, they're not new to my
generation… although I think we're asking a lot more questions- we discuss
things a lot more than our mom's and grandmothers did… Have you ever wondered why: he lied, he
didn't call when he said he would, he doesn't support his babies, he ignores
you, he expects you to cater to him, he uses you for his booty call when
'wifey' don't want to- or maybe when she's just not around, he beats you-but
buys you Gucci to make up for it, cheats on you- then swears he won't do it
again~~ or until the next easy piece walks by… makes all kinds of promises and
plans with you~ only to break them~ time and time again… and I'm not talking
about promising to take you shopping, I'm talking LIFE promises… Lets' take a
look at this shall we ladies?? Now, you might wanna get your steel toed
Timberland's on cause I'm sure I'm gonna step on some toes- MY own included…
I'm sure I'll offend many~ even some men who might actually read this… but it's
something that needs to be addressed, it's not discussed enough.
WHY do we allow this to happen to us?? Let me tell you sisters~~
we lack the self respect necessary to stop it!!! Women who respect themselves
first and foremost do NOT let men treat them this way; they don't allow anyone
to abuse, use or mistreat them. What has
happened to us respecting ourselves?? I know it's not all our fault right??
Society has conditioned us to do what we have to do to hold on to a man… from
dressing a certain way, behaving a certain way, even giving up our own
identities. In the mean time, we've lost
our self respect- and the respect of the very men we were trying to impress and
keep a hold of.
Do you really want a man in your life that just wants you for
sex? Do you honestly want a man in your life that doesn't want to help you
support the children he so willingly helped you create? And why would you want
to stay with a man who abused you- no matter HOW much you loved him?? Why would
a self respecting woman want a man who was a two timing womanizer? Now girls I
am asking myself some of these questions just as much as I am asking any one of
you out there—
Come on… WE do deserve better… and YES there IS better out
there… there ARE good men. There ARE men who want to treat a woman like a princess… BUT, first and foremost we
have to believe we deserve to be treated as such!!! We have to RESPECT
OURSELVES before we'll ever find that man… a good, self respecting man doesn't
want a woman who is willing to just throw herself out there… they want a woman
who's graceful in her behavior, strong willed, intelligent, loving, gentle,
industrious, knows how to handle herself in time of need, can be his partner
and his confidant and one who exudes confidence and self respect!!!
While I'm on that subject- a real man, one who wants to treat a
SELF RESPECTING woman like she should be treated doesn't want a woman who's
willing to post pictures of herself (to borrow from a friend) 'all protruding out there' and brag about her
sexual conquests and her other degrading habits… why display yourself like
that?? A self respecting woman knows the difference between sexual and sensual…
she knows there are lines that really don't need to be crossed (in public)~~
There are some HOT self respecting women out there- who know how to attract a
man w/out flaunting all their goodies all over the place… that is class and
sophistication~~
Now with that said… I would love to see my generation be the one
who teaches the younger girls about respecting ourselves again… taking a stand-
I don't mean being a BITCH~ I mean not letting men use us, abuse us, hurt us
for no reason other than we allow it… we need to learn it's ok to have
confidence and be proud of who we are—it doesn't matter if we're Black, White,
Latino, Asian, Mixed… we all deserve to be treated with the same amount of
respect … but it all starts with US… So
if you're tired of being mistreated, quit bitching about it… start respecting
YOU first and you'll start seeing changes in the way others treat you…
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